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I haven't posted pictures of this...shrine? of mine before because it's almost a bit too precious, but it's so relevant to the vibes in everything I'm posting right now. I am definitely going through a phase with vomit pink and Laura Palmer's Secret Diary and black swans and white swans and girls. It should be noted that I don't equate "girl"with pink and red and bows and dolls and babies, the entire aesthetic is more about mocking those connotations, though I would be lying if I said I never really just wanted to indulge in bows and glitter and sickening cheesiness.

In Real Life terms, it's like how I'm really into high school drama and talking about Taylor Swift ~pwoblemz~ because I love how funny it all is, but I think it's perfectly natural and healthy to sincerely enjoy that stuff too. Obviously, there's much more to teenage girls and the thoughts of such than boys with noteworthy eyeballs, but I resent the idea that such thoughts are, in our culture, considered vapid because they're also considered specific to young females. Larger scale examples of "girl=dumb," or, "what we deem as 'girl' even though a lot of girls don't fit that stereotype=dumb": "Twilight fans are so lame and dumb and sad!" (see also: Justin Bieber fans), "Joanna Newsom's music sounds too delicate, by which I mean, feminine!", and Kathleen Hanna being told that she couldn't be A Smart Feminist who also said the word "like" in the excessive way that is typically thought of as specific to teenage girls.

The fact that "smart" and "girly" have to be mutually exclusive gets in the way for someone like me who would like to go to school wearing an outfit I obviously spent time on picking out or with my classmates knowing that I spend a lot of time writing and thinking about clothes -- since fashion too is considered a "girl" thing-- and still be taken seriously when it comes to class discussions. It's also worth noting that in all the times I've been accused of being an adult posing as someone younger and writing this blog, and considering that we live in a society in which women are not always judged solely based on merit and so criticisms towards women should be examined for sexist stereotypes, I'm going to take a wild guess that some suspicions stemmed from the idea that a teenage girl who likes fashion can't also do something that requires some very basic knowledge. Do you like how I passive aggressively added that in the end there?

With all that said, let's indulge in some bows and glitter, yes?
Jewelry throughout from Meadham Kirchhoff (gifts), joke shop, the depths of our house, thrift stores/flea markets/yard sales, and on Etsy: Flamingo Cupcake Studios, Leafpeople Vintage, and Bookhouse Creations.

137 comments:

KARLITO said...

It never seizes to amaze me just how much I learn from you. I'll catch myself from time to time and realize that, that stem of thought reaches all the way to you. So thanks because it's kind of helping me figure myself out especially coming from a guy who isn't exactly the type of guy society (and those around me) would like me to be.

Anonymous said...

i love this!! those jesus clips are funny as! xx andie

lipsticknow.blogspot.com

Ottavia said...

that's a treasure collection!
(I need the I lovelove Jesus barret XD)

victoria said...

You're smarter than pretty much any of the guys I know who would make fun of me for writing a fashion blog.

TM said...

Ok... Think pink!!! Why not ;-)
http://aygenart.blogspot.com
!

Anonymous said...

You Go Tavi!
(said in my perky-happy voice)

www.IsabellaNecessary.com

Jenna Benson said...

THAT IS SO AWESOME, TAVI!
I just adore your blog.

TELEYOUTH.BLOGSPOT.COM

Ellie said...

Amazing collection of tack! I love it all. This is what most of my shelves look like :)

UshiSato said...

WOW...I MISS YOU TAVI... GLAD I CAN SEE YOU NOW IN MY FEEDS....
XOXO

Anonymous said...

More people should start thinking like you. Others would just make fun of me for creating a style blog. This is amazing.

Oh, and I found out about you from a magazine article. Thank God I chanced upon that periodical. :)

Yours,
E. R. Patrice

Sewon said...

I love the shrine, especially the Jesus clip and the Jordan Catalano brooch!

Sydney said...

aww! I have that pink bear too! but mine is in orange ;)

my dad brought it from the flea market in US :D

(im from Malaysia)

sydsense.blogspot.com

Explendid said...

Your originality wouldn't stop amazing me!

kisses

Bára Růžičková said...

sweat!

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Anonymous said...

Awesome! :D

Wendy said...

Nothing wrong with a little glitter or vomit pink from time to time. Had to smile at the "Prom" ticket stub. Took my kiddo to see it - the theater was a wave of gossip, pedicures and flat ironed hair. Loved it (in small doses, though).

cartoonfruit said...

i love you, seriously. you are awesome :)

Nia said...

Everything here just looks so vintage,I have the same little pink comb you have,maybe slightly different but still almost the same.

Love Nia,
from Malaysia :)

Pretty Provocative said...

Tavi, you're so originally awesome!
This post reminds me so much of Pretty in Pink and the 80s Molly Ringwald.

www.prettyprovocative.blogspot.com

xoxo!
-C

brodie said...

I have nothing intelligent to say (and I'm a grown up LOLLL) except: you are my queen.

Also, I love your new blog design-y bits.

laskje said...

No one is like you. Love your stuff - love you!

// www.passion-4-photography.blogspot.com

Mandarina said...

Jesus :) I love too :)

Unknown said...

i'm glad you posted this, something similar happened this weekend to one of my best friends. we were out and i introduced her to a work colleague who addressed her as a bimbo. now my friend is an absolutely stunning little blondie with massive eyelashes, she's a barbie girl and loves it but bimbo is one thing she DEFINITELY IS NOT!! she is an extremely clever young lady studying surveying at university and set to take over her dad's business and is one of the strongest people i have ever met. what i dont get is why people think they have a right to label someone or why they would assume that because she chooses to dress in a certain way that this would have any reflection on her intellect. people are so narrow minded


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xx

The Fancy Teacup said...

I love how thought provoking you are. It is true how the term "girly" can be so misconstrued. Thanks for letting us have a glimpse into your shrine. It's truly a treasure trove, and I can't get over your wondrous assortment of hairpins.

www.TheFancyTeacup.com
much love.

20thCgirl said...

It's really true about the whole "girly" = "dumb" thing. It's such a huge stereotype, but also I feel it must stem slightly from jealousy.

"Girly" girls are often associated with the "popular" and "pretty" crowds - crowds that the majority of High Schoolers are not a part of and who they resent. So the stereotype gets even more ingrained - kinda like, well I'm not popular but at least I'm not DUMB.

Of course not everyone who is girly or even popular is dumb.

YOU SHOULD READ "Female Chauvinist Pigs" by ARIEL LEVY

IT WILL BLOW YOUR MIND IT'S THE BEST FEMINIST BOOK EVER.

(Okay capslock over)

PowerFemme said...

I am a new reader and I have been totally floored by your blog. Your posts make my riot grrrrl heart smile and scream :) I have a feminist beauty blog where I talk about gender and sexuality and fashion and makeup if you were interested. I just hope I can merge feminist politics and beauty talk in my work as seamlessly as you.

http://powerfemme.blogspot.com/

Rivkah Gevinson said...

the best gift i have to give is a photograph of myself decorated in bows and glitter. i'm so generous.

meri said...

that was really gorgeous, when people could still believe in something and have illusion, im also trying to work with all that ideas and vintchristian inspiration.
rock, tavi, rock!

Jessica said...

Nice post. So inspiring.

http://dassida.blogspot.com/

Mariella said...

Pure brilliance. Thankyou Tavi xxx

karin said...

I just discover you have a stamp of Juan Diego and La Virgen de Guadalupe, who is so important for us (mexicans).We pray to her because she´s the most important Saint in our country. Where did you get it, it surprised me to see it in your room?? =) www.stylepicture.blogspot.om

Anonymous said...

great shrine! and diggin' the updated dreamy look of your blog.

Sabina said...

I completely perked up when I saw your 90s-tastic shrine. The only thing it needs is a pic of Courtney Love in the Hole video or some other grrrl band stuff. Though the barrettes and Chelsea issue of Ben is Dead certainly lend the right effect. I'm not going to try and be witty here. I just think it was really nicely done.

Sarah Wolf said...

Right on, Tavi. Smartness is definitely compatible with girlness and highschoolness... but that doesn't mean you're not wise beyond your years! I am just so impressed by how fun and moving your blog continues to be, even as you've switched subject matter. I'm 22 and reading this kinda feels like watching the best of my own teenage years in replay, except with cooler clothes and a better blog (I had a pretty silly livejournal). So great. Yay you.

Chocolatier said...

As a 14-year-old girl, I highly appreciate this article as well as your blog which I think everyone in the world should read. I'm just going to randomly let you know: Half the time I don't understand what you're talking about since I don't follow fashion, but I still religiously follow your blog because of your writing style and posts like this. How do you say this stuff? How do you word it so perfectly? I mean, what?? I'm flabbergasted.
Also, you're so lucky. $8.50 for an adult ticket? Where I live, it's like $13.

moony said...

Tavi, you inspire me - I love your style and the fact that you make up your own style and don't care what people think. I totally agree with the whole Girly = Dumb thing, its so stereotypical.

I know you probably don't read your comments that often, but if you get the chance to ever read this, please do look at my blog; it would mean so much to me!

neonrosefashion.blogspot.com

Eleonore said...

Wow I love all of these things. I'm obsessed with Twin Peaks in an unhealthy way, saw a screening of episodes in London which was amazing. Are you aware that there is a Secret Diary of Laura Palmer's? Published? I own it and also a couple other Twin Peaks related books, you can find them on Amazon.

Also, since you like everything I like I highly suggest you start listening to the radio program This American Life. It's amazing. Start with the one called The House on Loon Lake. I promise you will love it.

Sasha Fay said...

The little bits of religious imagery and the "Jesus" plastic hair barrette is perfect amongst all this puke of pink :)

I wish I had friends like you when I was your age!

Sasha Fay

Anonymous said...

This really is smart of you, and an important subject to bring up to discussion. I am a single girl with 5 brothers and for long time, I thought girlyness was something wrong. I was more of a tomboy then anything as little, cut my hair short and just wanted to be a boy. But now, as a 21 year old, I embrace my inner girl, because that is truely, who I am.

Alex said...

Jordan Catalano ringggggg..so good. Also, $8.50 for a movie ticket? I'm envious. Movie theaters here wheedle $12.50 out of us dumb teenagers, not counting popcorn.

lizdigiorgio said...

Tavi, you honestly say everything that I would like to be able to say but can't for two reasons:

a.) because I'm not as eloquent a writer.

b.) because I'd be worried that people would think I was a bitchy butchy feminist lesbian. In the same way that it sucks that people generalize young girls, it really sucks that people generalize anyone that would stick up for girls.

you are great.

Unknown said...

You are absolutely right and I had never thought about that before - the fact that "girly" and "intelligent" are usually mutually exclusive!

"Fashion" girls get such a bad rap, (and admittedly, I too sometimes judge girls based on the shallow content of their internet image). Its good to realize that no one should be defined solely on one aspect of their lives, i.e. their blog!

Kim said...

I used to worry about that a lot too. And I still sometimes worry about it at the office, where I work in IT amongst all male coworkers: will I still be taken seriously in a meeting when I'm wearing a pink flowery dress? But in the end, that's just first impression and when people do get to know you through your actions (at school I ranked first both in class and nailpolish collection) they will respect you. And now I get quite a kick out of scaring people in meetings while wearing a pink flowery dress - they never suspect "the chick" to have the balls. It an be an advantage too you know.

Tavi said...

Thanks guys!

Eleonore- I'm reading Laura's diary now! It's so spooky and good. I love TAL but don't listen as much as I should, thanks for reminding me.

Rivkah-Yeah, seriously.

Mihaela said...

You're just like some barbie doll xDD

mfashionfreak.blogspot.com

Lydia Armstrong said...

I love Taylor Swift and Twilight and fashion and bows and sappy music and stupid chick flicks. And I'm also smart and love classic literature and science documentaries and museums. Women (and girls) have so many dumb stereotypes, we're bimbos, we're not good at math, the Madonna and the whore, etc etc etc. I think smart girls who embrace the more "frivolous" girlie things in life do us a favor by showing the world you can be relevant and still like pink.

melina bee said...

wow, I love these photos and your room. I'd love to see you do installation art.

Sam | ashore said...

What an important discussion to have, Tavi. And one that, in itself, gives a voice to fashion girls.

When femininity is no longer equated with unintelligence women will have the most basic freedom : to dress the way we want to dress.

Sarah Dee said...

This post is so insightful and I feel like it's a very good topic to bring up. I have been studying to be a nurse and I hate when I receive stereotypical comments about my intelligence when I tell people I write a fashion blog. Because how could someone as smart as me enjoy something so trivial? I feel like being a girl and being fashionable has nothing to do with intellect.

<3 Sarah
theantiquepearl.blogspot.com

Un Duex Trois said...

SO INSPIRING!

-Dominick

Un-Deux-Trois.Net

Kit Jordan said...

"I resent the idea that such thoughts are, in our culture, considered vapid because they're also considered specific to young females."

You know, I never thought about that before! But it's so true! Thank you for being wonderful, and for reminding us grown up feminists that we still have a lot to learn.

Flora said...

grrrl, it's so great that you're onto this stuff so early! it's the type of thing that most people don't figure out until later (ie. intro to women's studies in university, which was my feminist awakening). It's rad. Keep rocking out, making the other kids at your school uncomfortable, reading, thinking and writing! If you choose to go to university you'll rock the women's/gender studies department :)

Quinn O said...

these are the type of pictures you play i spy

Anonymous said...

Wow, you have a lot of zines! :-O

Alexi Frest said...

Yes, now that you mention it, looking at teen girls' interests, I am often afraid that girl=stupid. And anytime I am interested in girly topics, I have an unpleasant feeling of acting idiotic...

Anonymous said...

Hell yes.
I say, don't hate such-and-such media because of its target market, hate it because it implies some insulting things about what that target market likes. Teen girls catch a lot of disrespect as a demographic, and people (including teen girls themselves) tend to respond with knee-jerk disdain to anything aimed at them. Calls to mind this Feminist Frequency vid about Twilight. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQwqepW97zs&feature=channel_video_title
"Edward's gay, Edward's a pussy" -- those aren't valid criticisms of the series. The problem with the series is that it harbors some fucked up messages, not that it isn't pumped full of testosterone. Of course, it's possible to think critically about the problematic elements of something and still love it without guilt or irony. Anyway.

marianella chanchonauta said...

I'm the smartest AND best-dressed girl I know. I love red lipstick and dresses, and reading Dostoievski, and I also like watching football with my best friend (which is a girl, by the way).
I don't care about being judged or heard anymore, I know what kind of woman I am and I will speak up just for myself and won't let anyone make me feel like I'm a girl first and a person second.

marianella chanchonauta said...

I'm glad to see that there are so many of us feeling so united!

zoomslow said...

When I was younger, I used to do a lot of, "Now, should I get this? Should I do this? Is this appropriate for someone like me?" Now I don't care. I try and come to things with a fresh set of eyes and ears. And if it appeals to me, then I'll get it, or take an interest in it, or whatever. Life's too short. And no one cares anyway :-)

zoomslow said...

P.S I should add that you have played a large part in my adoption of this attitude! So, thanks <3

happycache.tumblr.com said...

heehee, this is really cute. the "jesus clips" are funny!!=p :-)

jessielovesthis said...

I love the clips in the last picture,and all of the pastel colours!Oh,and I spotted that Justin Bieber ticket...

caden said...

Did you see that Flamingo Cupcakes has new jewlry with Rayanne and Angela from My So-Called Life??

http://iconsandtheircats.blogspot.com/

Juliana said...

Props for keeping it real with the "Never Say Never" ticket. I'm a 22 year old feminist and unashamed to say I saw it too. And I miss those Barbie brushes.

Hilary said...

Ahhh i have followed your blog for a while now but I loved this post the most so far....its so true, and you said it so well, and you posted indulgent girly shrine pics right after as a final f-u to the stereotypes. Just perfect. Weird random question, looks like you have some zines there, what zines do you read?

Steve said...

Good point about the dismissal of everything 'girly' as dumb. It's a double standard too, because at the same time as girl's hobbies are denounced, girls themselves are supposed to be all the rage. You're all supposed to be overachieving and outperforming boys at every turn, getting better grades, graduating at higher rates, and then being payed lower wages for the same work (whoops, scratch that last one!). So it's no wonder that everything you do that isn't breaking a glass ceiling is seen as frivolous.

But you know, besides maintaining structural inequalities (if girls think everything they do as children is dumb, maybe they'll be more accepting of being treated as dumb later in life, too), there's probably a monetary reason for it as well. I wouldn't be surprised if marketers discovered that constantly making fun of Twilight followers makes them more ardent fans, more likely to buy merchandise, etc.

Unknown said...

hi Tavi, i don't mean to sound like one of those annoying adverts you always get on comments BUT you should really check out http://muunna.tumblr.com/archive/ I found it today after I read this post and it is FILLED to the brim with pink girly stuff, I love it! I'm talking pink transulcent elastic banded bracelets, tacky bow earings and plastic pink iced cakes.

TheMxsterious said...

U're like jesus ? why that ?

thwany said...

<3 chelsea is just priceless.

Unknown said...

Relate-ably put and very well-articulated, Tavi! Right on. Reversing and rejecting all stereotypes does not eliminate them. The "taboo" of possessing the traits in stereotypes - in this case, pink, glitter, talking about things we wear - is perpetuated if we progress by exclusion, versus growing and maturing by understanding and accepting. Creating taboos out of these things is denying a part of the humanity of those who possess these traits. We should be celebrating excellence and strength regardless of where it comes from, even if it is nestled in a warm nest of Bieber fever.

Anonymous said...

I love that you're such a strong girl and so supportive of women's rights, but it makes me curious as to why you continue to accept American Apparel clothing and wear it on your site? I'm referring to the chronic misogyny spouted off by Dov Charney.

I think what I'm really asking is where do you (you personally) draw that line--the one between the product and the creator?

Should I never wear John Galliano bc I am Jewish and support Jewish rights? Is it okay to wear pieces made before his 'outburst,' or ones not directly designed by him? Does it matter at all?

Thanks!

Aliza said...

Your shrine looks like my room right now...! But i like it.

NDavrados said...

I'm always amazed at how well written your blog is. I wasn't nearly so good at coherently conveying my thoughts and opinions at your age and even now. Bravo, Tavi. You're one smart cookie.

Vita T. said...

I don't want to be repetitive like everyone else who commented as I can understand the point after 5 comments, not to be harsh.
This "vomit pink" approach is something new and I think trying something different won't get you bored, haha. I want to try something similar, I am still thinking how I can put my various things together. The "shrine" is very interesting and it gives me inspiration(:
I don't know if you read every single comment that is written to you, but I just hope you will read this one.
Visit my blog as well? Hey Reese! I was wondering how may I contact you, I have an important question to ask dealing with borrowing one of your photos to post on my blog.

I drew you with one of your outfits and I would love to share it in my blog.

visit my blog? http://vita-creativityneverdies.blogspot.com/
(I recently started) It's about fashion and art.

thanks(:I'm 13 by the way so I can relate to the high school stuff as it is already happening in junior high (well, I just ended so..here comes high school)

Vita T. said...

ehh -____- sorrryy, the part where it says "hey reese!" was accidentally pasted there.

Josie @ The Magic Pomegranate said...

YES! You nailed it! I have been totally feeling the same vibes lately.. Challenging gender stereotypes.. I have found that it can be difficult to even create a discourse surrounding this topic, so I am super stoked on this post!

Check out this post I made about gender depictions in media: http://robotsareafraidofthefuture.blogspot.com/2011/05/ignoring-obvious.html

xoxo

EmK said...

ah I'm the same way about those 'Taylor Swift' problems.. I laugh at them but secretly enjoy the bonding over heartbreaks which for some reason my friends seem to endure constantly. but I do believe you are really 15 or so, teenagers can usually tell if another teenager is writing something (not that that's bad).
was prom a good movie?

0 said...

If my room's not messy , i can't find my things :P

GRACEDCHIN said...

Right on, Tavi!
It's true!!! The English language assigns value to things that are perceived as heavy/masculine and a lot of it goes back to fashion.
Women's fashion has been more about the abstract; traditionally, it's less about the natural, actual woman's body - whereas men's fashion has been more about utility (translation: a bit boring... and definitely static). Even the fabrics that are used for women's clothing that aren't usually used to make men's (tulle, silk, lace, etc) are deemed "light." Because it's light, it doesn't last as long; it's not as valuable; it's prone to change; et voila! Ladies' fashion is light, ever-changing, and "silly."
And today, when people are pretty visually illiterate (ironic, considering how many images a person is exposed to daily, even hourly), people forget that fashion is important. You're trying to evoke something beyond what people would otherwise see.
I only blather on because it is a topic that is near and dear to my heart - it bugs me that these biases still exist and I love that you posted about it.

GRACEDCHIN said...

ALSO - appreciated the essay about Joanna Newsom. Awesome.

Harlow Darling said...

This is all very reminicent of the Lisbourne girls. One can imagine that this is the sort of things their bedrooms would have contained...

Abigail said...

It looks like an "I Spy" Book :)

maren said...

tavi, YOU RULE. wish i could go through yr zines plus that bk song rules! xoxo

Bridget said...

It's crazy how much my high schooler-self relates to you! Keep reading the feminist lit and trying out your theories in the public sphere. We could all learn from your willingness to offer your thoughts up, even when you acknowledge the arguments may not be fully formed yet. Seeing a sharp mind in the making is a beautiful thing to observe.

giovanna said...

Hmm. I guess nowadays we have many sources of information, inspiration and points-of-view so that, when you have the littlest interest in things (and a little curiosity to go after information), you have basically many options to choose from regarding opinion, music, fashion, everything. Think, I don't know, the 80s. The "preppy girls" couldn't figure out the "grunge guys", and vice-versa, and maybe they just didn't connect enough. Think The Breakfast Club - once they all get together they realize how much in common they have.
Nowadays if you want to know more about nerdy culture, for example, you just go to their blog or whatever. So we tend to turn into not one simple stereotype, but a mix of all of them. You can easily dress like a goth and secretly like the Spice Girls, or wear only Lacoste shirts but love to play your brother's Nintendo 64. Some of us may still hide behind a certain stereotyped style (insecurity?), but the truth is that more than never it's just stupid trying to judge solely by looks (cheesy but my thoughts always end up here).

Unknown said...

It's kind of weird how you treat Christianity or Jesus as a "phase". It's sort of offensive how you make fun of something that is holiness to people, you know? I am Buddhist but I treat other people's beliefs with respect. Using religious paraphernalia just to make a statement...is sort of manipulative and twisted.

Unknown said...

You are a great writer, and I love what you had to say here ("girl" and "smart" should not have to be mutually exclusive!). I love this little shrine, too; the necklace with the twins from the Shining is darling. :]

Kacie - With Love said...

Where in the world do you find all these silly/cool things! I love it.

Kacie
www.acollectionofpassions.blogspot.com

monkeys said...

great post--this is an issue i struggled with all the time throughout high school

as a relatively "nerdy" person, honor student, great test scores, etc., this somehow seemed to conflict with my true passions, art and design. there was so much pressure to do something "significant," to be a doctor, lawyer, anything really, other than what I wanted.

when I told people I wanted to be a designer, or work in fashion, they would give me funny looks...but fashion is so "frivolous"...couldn't I do something...better? why do I even need to go to college if that's what I wanted to do?

it was difficult to deal with, the lack of support, and I'm so glad that you have had so much of that support with your work thus far.

and I am going to college, at a pretty amazing school, one of the few great liberal arts universities that offers a concentration in fashion design, and allows me to do historical research as well!

College might not be a requirement for what I want to do, but its a matter of personal fulfillment---I love learning, and this education with last forever. I hope that you find the same sort of satisfaction in your future choices.

gauravtaneja said...

Love the post. I found some really amazing jewelry @ www.westcoastsilver.com

Linda Vasquez said...

about the I heart Jesus barrets, dope!I would'nt say it's religious but rather spiritual- way deeper than a thing called religion..

Zara said...

I so want the Jared-Leto-face-Ring!I love your blog Tavi,and sorry for my bad english but i'm italian.Anyway,you inspire me a lot with your outfits and thoughts,i love your style,also because here in italy only a few people have the courage to dress up like you.I think you are one of the most talented bloggers in the world.God,and we have the same age.You make me feel a failure!(Joking) xx
here's is my blog,i think it's not like all italian blogs so you may wanna check it out.
letacchettine.blogspot.com

cat said...

Hey Tavi! Don't know if you knew it (I didn't), Norma from Twin Peaks also was a singer (Peggy Lipton). A friend just showed me this, I thought maybe you'd enjoy it too. Keep up the great work! Love reading you a lot. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=3YyUZjiOxlc (worth watching until the very end)

Kat said...

Eloquently to the point and with eye candy to boot? Hell yeah!

Everything about this makes me happy.
http://wecanredoit.blogspot.com/

LuLu said...

Keep kicking ass. I think this post just proves further that you're soul sister with a lot of "girly" feminist girls out there. And for the record, my partner of 6 yrs says that there were 3 things that made him not able to take his eyes off of me the first time we met: my funky taste in clothes, my wicked intellect and my ability to match him word for word and drink for drink. You're headed for a kickass adulthood Tavi.

Julia said...

Love the Jared Leto and Jesus knickknacks. haha!

Nga Luongova said...

it looks sooo great!

Jenn said...

Your writing comes across as more mature in part because the canvas of your parent's lives is very broad and has exposed you to a lot of culture that most 'tweens and teens have never been anywhere near.

So you talk about the pop and cultural events of my generation with ease. Makes you hard to 'date' age-wise. Which in turn is why your writing is so appealing to *such* a large distribution.

Carry on, kiddo. You're doing great. Making us all think.

Anonymous said...

Cute shrine :)

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Please take a minute to look at my vintage boutique;

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stefania said...

the idea that one who obsesses with one dimensional aesthetics is a logical and natural assumption, and if limited solely to this in actuality which is the case most the time is justified. because if one obsesses with one aspect of something, well of course they don't have to with anything else.

most people nowadays don't think of pretty women solely as dumb blondes, well bc lots of intelligent women must be in the spotlight. but you're not gonna see scientists, mathematicians, and even women painters constantly walking around glammed up worrying about fashion. if you want to turn clothing into something intellectual, fine. its frivolous and you should be okay with that because people should be able to do what they want.

Masha said...

wow great. I like so much your random stuff!

http://leblogdemasha.blogspot.com/

MFRBooksandFilm said...

Stay away from psychic's. They will just take your money and tell you a pack of lies!

Did someone just say charlatan? Yes I think they did.

shahane said...

Hey Tavi!!!i'm a new reader and i liked your blog a lot..it seems that you'r putting your soul in it..thnx for great advises and thoughs thay helped me a lot...kisses

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I'm a new reader and i simply like this post!

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SC said...

Ok, honestly. This is beyond COOL!

Makes me want to bake cupcakes, draw cute princesses & have a ride on the back of a horse ... with my prince.

Annina said...

Hi Tavi, I was recently recommended this book, perhaps it's for you, too?

http://www.amazon.com/Full-Frontal-Feminism-Womans-Matters/dp/1580052010

Also, have you ever heard of the Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media and/ or Feminist Frequency? Both tackle issues you mentioned in your post and discuss the role of women in media.

You being someone with as loud a voice as you have, I think taking a closer look at that stuff is very important.

xx and greetings from Berlin,
Annina

ellom said...

Bravo! I love the point you made. . . the more I stumble here occasionally to read, the more I like your mind and am glad to be aware of your person.

riptidemurmur said...

if you don't have it already you should e-bay the spin girl issue, november 1997. i was an oddball artist ragamuffin hippie goth in high school and i remember people being floored to see me in advanced placement classes. apparently at my school preppy was equated to smart.

Rollerskate Skinny said...

There's that Taylor Swift song, "You Belong with Me". It bothers me that that the song pits girl against girl. It frustrates me that the lyrics further entrench the stereotype that "high heels," "short skirt," "cheer captain" girls must be shallow or vapid or bitchy. I reserve the right to wear a short skirt or makeup or be interested in fashion without people thinking it means anything about my character or my intelligence. As if wearing sneakers and t-shirts makes you somehow more genuine or 'good'. And to top it all off, she uses the abhorrent phrase, "a girl like that." So infuriating!

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Anonymous said...

These pictures looked like you walked into a poor Mexican families house and did a photoshoot of their living room. Nothing on your blog is "fashionable", "creative", or inspiring.

Anonymous said...

I am not a hater, I am a realist, NONE OF THIS IS ART.
Its a bunch of crap you put together from the trailer park you grew up in.

I cant believe I have to go to college to make a living while you take pictures of trash and become famous.

Maxens M. Finch said...

I think it relates to ageism too; it's true that sexism and ageism are really linked in our societies.
Shulamith Firestone's /Dialectic of Sex/ raise some great points about all that.

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You are making me wish that I am what I was.

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I love it!
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gec said...

Being a teenager is totally underrated. You can cross the street by yourself and wipe your own bum (finally!) but bonus, you can think. And you think and feel differently from adults. It's a unique thing you can never get back once you've grown out of it. More angsty, but also more exciting. Young adult life pales in comparison.

cancercowboy said...

stereotyping is generally a bad idea ^___^ in order to judge individuals. but lets face it: a significant part of the population, regardless of age, race, gender, religious beliefs etc. tends to think inside the box they're used to. only a small percentage of fashion qualifies as art, and its one of the most ambiguous forms too. if you would plan your outfits for a month in advance, you could write down interpretation aids, xerox them and hand them to the heathens ^___^
personally i don't think lowly of Twilight or Bieber fans because they are mostly young girls, but because "since when are mediocrity and banality good images for your children?" (paraphrasing Bill Hicks here). there's so many better stuff out there to spend time with. i really, honestly don't understand why these purely commercial plastic acts draw so much attention. but maybe thats better. imagine a world where your parents would love and approve of absolutely everything you do and like. embraces can be kinda suffocating.

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wow, this is my first time coming across your blog, i was wanting to do that since the first time i came across a page on teen vogue and i saw you and since then i have wanted to find you!
i love your style and your shelve!! and your soo unique!!
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Sandy Guttman said...

I think that having a shrine in your own space is key to high functionality.

Mine is not quite as kitsch as yours, but I'm working on it.

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